Hey,
Right people lets get the ball rolling with the first subject matter: Romance. Now I am well aware that I am not alone in wishing to be properly romanced by a guy, however I see many a girl/woman, fully aware of the concept of romance, throwing herself at the first thing that moves, reducing her self respect to nought and showing herself to the world as frankly desperate. And guys you are not innocent. Women and girls these days are convinced that every man will go for the most desperate looking one and then make her his girlfriend, but what thoes who think that don't realise is; that yes the guy is more likely to 'come on' to you if you look like you want it too but then you will just be used as a booty call for his lonely situations and in the end, left heartbroken when another female attracts his attention. You should never have to change yourself for a guy. Guys who want long term relationships want to be with a female that will be attractive to them and not have to worry about all his mates constantly hitting on her because she flaunts it. Yes you can be pretty and confident- everyone should be, but if every male you meet sees you drunk, half naked and out of it, you can be pretty deffinate that the idea of any more than one nighters and non-exclusivity is not in his mind.
The main principles of romance is this. Girls, you should be both yourself and confident, you are females and with that comes and air of class, mystery and elegance that simply the other sex does not have. You do not have to chase men, in fact thats the complete opposite to romance. If a man is attracted to you he will do the leg work: If he sees you when you feel ugly it won't matter to him, he will take you out and pay for your meal, he will ask you out (never, ever, ever ask a man out), he will be kind when you need him too, know what to say to make you smile, be respectful firstly of you and secondly of your family and will always put you first. Basically if you have watched any good chick flick, pick the guy, add in some flaws for good mesure and never compromise what you want from him. Also in romance you have to be classy, be polite, look amazing (dresses are always good) and make him see the real you, it's ok to let him in occasionally. I am not saying every man is prince charming, infact he sounds too perfect. Guys have flaws but thats to be expected, you just have to find the personality that fits yours, never give up on finding the one, he is out there and you will know it when you find it.
Guys, lets get one thing straight, females are not to be disrespected. Sexism stopped a long time ago and really you should know not to make women inferior. Even in the days of Guys and Dolls, men could be charming and romantic. Everytime you say something against women, you disrespect your mother, grandmother, aunt, sister, do I need to go on? Some men I have to commend, there are quiet a few out there who would never say anything of the sort and I really wish that you find the woman for you because you deserve them. The whole 'Bros before Hoes' concept is gross. Men, all women want is to be found amazing and to be truely in love. Like I said before, we don't really want a prince but we do want to be cared for and life is all about what you put in, you get out. Treating us how you want to be treated will work out for you, as life of casual relationships will leave you bitter and alone. Just turn up looking your best, smile, be you and let chemistry do the rest. Nothing like clean clothes and a good persona, after all, girls like men, just want to have fun.
Culture has changed and less relationships are going the distance and I really hope by writing this I can maybe make one relationship last more than a few months. Whatever sex you are, whatever country, town, city etc, you live in, just remember in a relationship it needs two lovely people and a helping of chemistry. Never pretend to be something you're not, the person you are is good enough to let nature find you a match, and finally be cool, don't force a relationship out of somthing it's not going to be, it will take a few trips and stumbles before you find someone but trust me you will.
Best Wishes,
Amber xx
