Wednesday 21 November 2012

Reality...

Hey,

Basically this post is very honest and I hope some people will get something out of this about relationships and the messy bits in-between like and love.

More and more I talk to girls who are having trouble with the guys in their lives while my guy friends are having their cake and eating it with no love lost against them. Also girls we are not perfect, sometimes I weep thinking about how the guys are following what they read off of the girls signals sent out into the universe. It's become such an issue that I had to put something into words.

Firstly, the whole idea of a relationship in the traditional sense seems to have vanished into the abyss along with respect for each other and general classiness.

Personally I don't see the appeal of being a serial player and always be cautious of getting entangled with one for two main reasons: firstly because if the signs aren't written in neon above their heads you could end up as a other woman/man in a relationship with them (don't expect to told be told upfront about the deal either) and secondly its not great to be the shield for people to hide their dirty laundry behind - e.g. "I was with them and our friends all night baby, I wasn't cheating on you don't worry" (however, non judgemental friendship is fine because hey you love your friends no matter what and you can't make a leopard change its spots).

Also, since when did having nothing to talk about ever be a good grounding for anything even slightly relationshippy. For me the thought of even just dating someone who I can't hold more than a five minute conversation with is mind boggling let alone going further than that! It's as if we have gone backwards, not to the era of courtship and relationships that are based on romance, but to the lets just procreate as that is apparently all we are good for! (especially the youth but that's for another blog). Just be careful readers please, please - don't just be with someone to say you are in a relationship even though you have nothing in common or do stuff with people you don't know, it's not just abusing your heart and body, it's wasting it, as you may not be prepared when the right person comes along.

So I guess the main message is pick what you want in your partner and don't settle for less, if you want thrills and no attachment fine but be honest with all involved, and if you want someone to watch your fave team with you, take you to your favourite gallery or simple sit with you while you look at the stars, go for it, if it means your single for a few years who cares, it's you happiness and well being at stake.

N.B. today I am literally spouting cringy-at-times romantic stuff - that last bit was borderline.

Luv,

Amber xx♥