Romance is NOT dead!

Hey,

Right people lets get the ball rolling with the first subject matter: Romance. Now I am well aware that I am not alone in wishing to be properly romanced by a guy, however I see many a girl/woman, fully aware of the concept of romance, throwing herself at the first thing that moves, reducing her self respect to nought and showing herself to the world as frankly desperate. And guys you are not innocent. Women and girls these days are convinced that every man will go for the most desperate looking one and then make her his girlfriend, but what thoes who think that don't realise is; that yes the guy is more likely to 'come on' to you if you look like you want it too but then you will just be used as a booty call for his lonely situations and in the end, left heartbroken when another female attracts his attention. You should never have to change yourself for a guy. Guys who want long term relationships want to be with a female that will be attractive to them and not have to worry about all his mates constantly hitting on her because she flaunts it. Yes you can be pretty and confident- everyone should be, but if every male you meet sees you drunk, half naked and out of it, you can be pretty deffinate that the idea of any more than one nighters and non-exclusivity is not in his mind.

The main principles of romance is this. Girls, you should be both yourself and confident, you are females and with that comes and air of class, mystery and elegance that simply the other sex does not have. You do not have to chase men, in fact thats the complete opposite to romance. If a man is attracted to you he will do the leg work: If he sees you when you feel ugly it won't matter to him, he will take you out and pay for your meal, he will ask you out (never, ever, ever ask a man out), he will be kind when you need him too, know what to say to make you smile, be respectful firstly of you and secondly of your family and will always put you first. Basically if you have watched any good chick flick, pick the guy, add in some flaws for good mesure and never compromise what you want from him. Also in romance you have to be classy, be polite, look amazing (dresses are always good) and make him see the real you, it's ok to let him in occasionally. I am not saying every man is prince charming, infact he sounds too perfect. Guys have flaws but thats to be expected, you just have to find the personality that fits yours, never give up on finding the one, he is out there and you will know it when you find it.

Guys, lets get one thing straight, females are not to be disrespected. Sexism stopped a long time ago and really you should know not to make women inferior. Even in the days of Guys and Dolls, men could be charming and romantic. Everytime you say something against women, you disrespect your mother, grandmother, aunt, sister, do I need to go on? Some men I have to commend, there are quiet a few out there who would never say anything of the sort and I really wish that you find the woman for you because you deserve them. The whole 'Bros before Hoes' concept is gross. Men, all women want is to be found amazing and to be truely in love. Like I said before, we don't really want a prince but we do want to be cared for and life is all about what you put in, you get out. Treating us how you want to be treated will work out for you, as life of casual relationships will leave you bitter and alone. Just turn up looking your best, smile, be you and let chemistry do the rest. Nothing like clean clothes and a good persona, after all, girls like men, just want to have fun.

Culture has changed and less relationships are going the distance and I really hope by writing this I can maybe make one relationship last more than a few months. Whatever sex you are, whatever country, town, city etc, you live in, just remember in a relationship it needs two lovely people and a helping of chemistry. Never pretend to be something you're not, the person you are is good enough to let nature find you a match, and finally be cool, don't force a relationship out of somthing it's not going to be, it will take a few trips and stumbles before you find someone but trust me you will.

Best Wishes,

Amber xx

First Post: Hey

Hello World!

This blog was an idea created after I spent half an hour giving a close companion relationship advice and they suggested I write it all down in a blog. This is actually my second blog. My first is a fashion blog (see link) http://diaryofalondonteenagefashionista.blogspot.com/ I love writing and so I decided to take them up on the idea and here I am.

Basically, for a long long time friends have been coming to me for advice on all aspects of life. I am a teenager and have been recommended for an agony aunt in my school paper (until it shut down) and I am usually who people come to about any problems they may have, relationship or otherwise. Now I am very bad at taking my own advice but most of the time it works out for other people.

I am all about respecting yourself first an foremost, nobody will ever take a relationship further with you if you seem like you can't even respect yourself. I truely believe in the fact that "Before you love others, you must learn to love yourself" Now I am not sure who came up with that but along time ago it came to me and I really agree with it. It's one of my life motto's I am glad to share with you all (there will be many more trust me)

The worst thing I hear is people saying 'I'm playing the game' Well mate, to be blunt, that's obvious and trust me the only relationships you will get with that attitude will end badly. Love is a game but you don't 'play it' I would say it's more like a long-haul flight. You are either keen on getting to the destination or you should just jump off now and save yourself the jet-lag and the baggage fees.

Now I am also up for talking about life. Now life really is a game. I am huge believer in fate but it always needs a helping hand. My first ever bit of philosophy was "mummy, life is like a pushchair" I was in my pram and I made a hell of a lot of sense. Think about it; life carries you through, sometimes it collapses and you have to build it back up, sometimes you take the break off and it rushes away. Now with life you only have so much control. It's all about making choices and I am one of the most indecisive people I know and I'm still surviving!

So this is the chance for me to talk about whatever it is you need me too. If you comment a direct idea you want me to address I will answer as best as I can and as soon as I can. If not check back as I am soon to be writing another post.

Best wishes,
Amber